Introduction
Julie Manning
Elder Mediator
- Do you continually worry about your aging parents and what their next health crisis will be?
- Have you and your siblings been wrestling with both the physical and financial needs of your elderly mother?
- Is the large home your parents live in too much work for them, yet they refuse to move?
- Do you get frustrated and worried when your father ignores your pleas to stop driving because he has become dangerous to himself and others on the road?
Don't you wish your family had a referee?
Well, you certainly aren't alone. Not only are Baby Boomers aging but so are their parents. Adult children often find themselves
caring for their parents as well as their own children. The elder parent has spent a lifetime taking care of them, and now the
situation is reversed.
No one is comfortable with any of these situations, and it can create long lasting resentments. This is when the services of an
Elder Mediator can be invaluable. It is hard for related people who are involved in a difficult, personal and emotional situation
to talk rationally to each other without misunderstandings, tears, shouting, or threats. As an Elder Mediator, I can help you find
a solution that works for everybody. Please call at 720-261-9393 or send us a message for your free 20-minute
consultation.
Sincerely yours,
PS. I can be your family's referee.
How Does Mediation Work?
My job as a mediator is not to decide what someone should do or tell them what I think they should do. I will not campaign for
either side. Instead I listen to everyone's take on a problem, learn what they think should be done and ask questions. I also help
each person understand the other's perspective.
I then help you work out a solution that everyone agrees is fair and workable. Sometimes it only takes one session or it can take
several, depending upon the number of issues and the complexity of each one. Once a solution is agreed on by everyone involved, I
put it into a written agreement that outlines the resolution and steps, and all of the parties sign it. Then everyone can see what
has been agreed upon, and no one can forget as time passes.
I offer you a FREE, no obligation 20-minute consultation about your family's issues and how mediation can be the solution.
Call Julie Manning at 720-261-9393 or send us a message for your free consultation right now.
Services - Specializing in Elder Concerns
Issues Relating to Aging Parents and Their Adult Children
Living Situation
- Change in living situation: need to move from family home to smaller place or go from independent living to assisted living
- Current caretaking situation no longer tenable such as one elder parent no longer being able to take care of the other one
- Moving in with an adult child
- Tensions that arise when elders, and their adult children and families live together
- Need for in-home assistance e.g. meals, cleaning, laundry, shopping, errands and the response is "I don't want a stranger in my house!"
Siblings
- Siblings not agreeing over care of elderly parent
- Compensation for adult child with whom parent is living
- Financial resources available to care for parents
- Who gets the family china
Financial, Legal and Property Issues
- Legal: Power of attorney, current will, executor of estate, trusts, trustees
- Financial: Social Security, annuities, IRAs, stocks and bonds, investments such as property, collectibles, art and liabilities; mortgages, cars, credit cards
- Banking: need for a co-signer on bank accounts including checking, savings, safety-deposit box
- Property: adding adult child's name to property, deeds, titles, appraisals
- Insurance information and policies
- Payment of bills
- Disposition of assets: sale of home, items in home, giving away items
New spouse/partner
- How does new partner/companion fit into the equation
Transportation
- Need to stop driving
- Alternative transportation
Health and Medical
- Family members don't agree with healthcare providers about medical treatment or quality of care
- Elder not taking prescriptions
- Elder neglecting basic hygiene
- Installation of emergency alerts
- Health care directives including Living Will, DNR orders and organ donation
About Julie Manning
Julie Manning is a Baby Boomer with aging parents and busy siblings, and has experienced many of the
same concerns as you. She has experienced almost every combination of family ties that you can think
of: divorce, step-parents, far-flung siblings, step-siblings, and parents with failing health including
one that has died. Everyone cares a great deal about each other but it all can be hard to deal with at times.
Julie received her B.A. in History from Lawrence University in Appleton, Wisconsin and an M.B.A. in Marketing
from Washington University in St. Louis. While working in marketing, she became interested in becoming a mediator.
She completed her mediation training and has worked with Jefferson County Mediation Services since 1999. For the
last couple of years, the topic of aging parents and their concerns has been in the forefront with both her friends
and her parents. Julie saw the need for a mediation service that specializes in the concerns of elders and their
extended families, and launched the Manning Mediation Group.
Call Julie at 720-261-9393 or send her a message today!
Testimonials
"As Director of Jefferson County Mediation Services, I can truthfully say that in her over eight years as a
volunteer mediator with our program, Julie has been one of our most dedicated and productive mediators, and has
worked effectively with an amazingly wide variety of case types and with people of all ages and backgrounds."
Mark Loye
Director of Jefferson County Mediation Services
I thought Ms. Manning did an amazing job in mediation. I don't think she could have handled the job with more
expertise. She started with the rules, listened to both sides and actually worked out an agreement that both
parties agreed to. She appeared to me to be impartial and could sort out the relevant information. Thank you
for help in a difficult situation.
L. B.
Jefferson County Mediation Services client